A Minnesota woman’s obituary is currently viral because its content is unbelievably shocking, coming from the woman’s children.
People are expected to speak well of the dead but not for Kathleen Dehmlow who died May 31 in Springfield at the age of 80.
Her children, Gina and Jay made it clear in the obituary submitted to her local newspaper she will not be missed by them.
This publication is now controversial as people are wondering why a newspaper should allow such a nasty obituary to be published. So what is the content of the obituary?
Her obituary, which appeared in the Redwood Falls Gazette, begins with the usual information, including her date of birth, her marriage to Dennis Dehmlow in 1957 and the two children she had with him, Gina and Jay.
It then takes a sharp turn:
In 1962 she became pregnant by her husband’s brother Lyle Dehmlow and moved to California.
She abandoned her children, Gina and Jay who were then raised by her parents in Clements, Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Schunk.
The obituary then reads that Dehmlow “will now face judgement” and “will not be missed by Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her.”
The controversy generated by the obituary grew as it went more viral.
Some social media users wondered why the newspaper allowed the obituary to be printed.
One Twitter exchange with the newspaper suggested that the decision to run the nasty obit received some pushback in the newsroom.
Redwood Falls Gazette general manager Lisa Drafall told HuffPost the family paid for the obituary to run, but she wouldn’t address whether it caused a debate in the newsroom.
At least one of Kathleen Dehmlow’s relatives thinks she isn’t getting a fair shake.
Dwight Dehmlow told the Minneapolis Star-Tribune that the facts as related in the obituary are true but “there is a lot of stuff that is missing.”
Dwight Dehmlow, who wouldn’t specify his relationship to the deceased, said, “The sad thing about this is there is no rebuttal. There is more to it than this. It’s not simple.”
He said she lived in a nursing home the last year of her life and her sisters were there when she died.
“She made a mistake 60 years ago, but who hasn’t?” he said. “Has she regretted it over the years? Yes.”
Some people believe the living should cut the dead some slack no matter the mistakes they made while alive.